Women are like waves.

Wave here refers to her emotion.

When a woman is feeling really good, she will reach peak, but then suddenly her mood change and her wave crashes down.

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During this down time, she especially needs to talk about problems and be heard.

When a woman goes into her "well" (when her wave crashes down), she is unconsciously sinking into her unconscious self, into darkness and diffused feeling. (that's why, talaq is not in woman's hand. At this time, she is actually unconscious)

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She may feel hopeless, thinking that she is all alone or unsupported. But soon, after she reach the bottom, if she feels loved and supported, she will automatically start to feel better.

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How men react to the wave?

When a man loves a woman, she begins to shine with love and fulfillment. Most men naively expect that shine to last forever.

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A man will assume that her sudden change of mood is based solely on his behaviour. When she is happy, he takes credit. But when she is unhappy, he also feels responsible and feel extremely frustrated as he doesn't know how to make things better.
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Imagine this: One minute she seems happy, and so he believes he is doing a good job and the next minute she is unhappy. He is shocked because he thought he was doing so well.

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Don't try to fix it.

Man made mistake of trying to prevent his partner from "going down" or "bottoming up" (remember, we refer women's emotion to wave).

Women need to hit bottom (ie reach amplitude of the wave) before she could come up.

As mentioned before, at this time, women need to be heard.

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But, don't get confused!

Situation like this might happen.

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When she feels upset, he will try to listen with empathy. He is trying hard to just listen and not to offer suggestions and solutions to her problems. However, after 20 minutes she wasn't feeling any better, and might be even more upset. It seemed the more he listened, the more upset she got.

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Don't worry. This is a sign that his support is actually helps her to hit the bottom sooner (ie making the wave amplitude smaller)

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Man must understand that a wave must hit bottom before it can rise again, so that he can release his expectations that she will immediately feel better in response to his assistance.

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See what are the frequency and amplitude modulation here